“If someone starts talking about the future at the first meeting, or even if she jumps into bed with [you] the same night (unless it was a sex match-up site), be on the lookout for a clingy, dependent type,” Davidson warns. Some information will be designed to ensure her own safety; other information is just inappropriate—like discussing or asking about intimate details of past relationships early on.
Usually, if something feels ‘weird’ or ‘off,’ it probably is, so trust your instincts.” Finally, Davidson notes, guys should avoid getting so wrapped up in their own fantasies about someone that they miss the cues that would otherwise tell them she’s not right for them.
Perhaps, but it’s a lot less cruel in the long run than leading her on.
Will she analyze it to death, beat herself up, and second-guess every word that came out of her mouth?
“Thank her for the date, and wish her well in her search for Mr.
Right.” Will you feel like you’re shooting a puppy?
Why don’t we both think about how we feel about another date.
I’ll email (or text, or IM) you later.’ Then be sure you do it,” she says.
All right, so now you’re all set with a shiny dating profile that’s garnered lots of hits from potential hotties.
You’ve winnowed through the pool and chosen your potential catch.
“You needn’t go so far as to spring for dinner, but a drink in a nice environment, or even lunch, will make a far better impression than coffee at the local Starbucks,” she says.