Whether you're a newcomer to the world of online dating or a veteran like myself, here are seven things that often get left out of conversations about apps like Ok Cupid and Tinder — I don't mean to scare you off, but you should be aware that online dating isn't all love-at-first-sight (or awesome casual sex).
This will not come as a shock to anyone as entrenched in the online dating world as me, but it seems people rarely talk about the fact that actively using dating apps is hard effing work.
But if I had a dollar for every time I read something like "if you don't look like your pictures, you're buying my drinks until you do," I could probably get Sallie Mae to stop calling me every five minutes.
Even if someone isn't outright sexist, online dating nevertheless breeds a sense of entitlement, and people seem to have very high demands regarding what they're looking for in a partner.
If you hit it off with someone immediately, it can be easy to get over-excited about your romantic future, which can lead to feelings developing at an abnormal pace.
Though this isn't true for everyone, I know that I've been an inappropriate level of 'heartbroken' after things ended with someone I'd really only known for a few weeks, strictly because of the accelerated nature of the relationship.
There's hardly a single millennial alive who isn't an avid user of dating apps: They're a fast and easy way to meet hundreds of potential partners, or just an extremely effective method of procrastination.
But for all its benefits, there are also a lot of bad things about online dating.There has been more than one study that blames the spike in STI rates on dating apps. All you need to do is commit yourself to having open, honest conversations with each new sex partner before putting your health or theirs at risk.If you have an STI and want to date within a more understanding community of peers, there's even a dating service specifically for people who have STIs, because everyone deserves to find love (and having an STI does not make you undateable).It's an over-generalization to say that everyone online is terrified to commit, but it can be a common side effect to having such a bevy of options at all times.Someone could say they're looking for something serious, but there's really no way to know for sure, and sometimes emotions might already be involved before you find out (too late) that they thought of you as a hookup buddy rather than a real significant other.I'm not suggesting everyone on Tinder is intentionally deceptive; it's just an unfortunate reality that online dating often attracts hordes of people who want a quick lay, and will lie about their intentions to get it.